Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Just Reflecting!

Periodically I put this up on the blog, usually when I am feeling that even though I do a lot of good in my relationships with people, I am not always given that in return. Should I expect it? Oprah says, you do good you get back good. I would never pass up a phone call because I would be afraid that someone would need my assistance, my words of encouragement, my comfort. People call and they say "Are you busy" No matter what I am working on or doing, I would put it down for my family or a friend. Sometimes I say it "Not too busy for you" I am not trying to sound like some saint, I do not enjoy insulting people or making them feel bad about themselves, I say you stand on your own merit, everyone does some things better than others but everyone has their niche in life. There are people that excel at being a great mother, that yell a lot but have shining clean and well taken care of children. That takes time to say "I love you" and teaches them the important things in life. I believe that teaching a child to respect his possessions is high on the list of things a Mom should do. Well here it is, this wise piece that was written(not by me):

I no longer place much importance on an exalted love for everyone and everything. It isn't likely or even practical that each of us will be able to truly love everyone else. There are simply too many human failings of the heart to allow it. I do believe kindness and compassion are always possible, even when love isn't, and that they spring from courage and are not quite, though almost, the same thing. Kindness refers to the little things, small everyday gestures - being good, and a help to those near to us, in our varied circles, even extending that to those we may not know personally, but to whom we reach out when they need a hand to steady, or a word to comfort. Compassion is larger than kindness. One can be kind, lacking understanding.
Compassion is a way of understanding, of putting oneself in the position of another, of walking the mile in their shoes. Compassion evokes generosity of spirit and encourages universality while recognizing individuality. It allows true forgiveness of terrible human failings and outrages that would seem unforgivable almost as easily as smaller transgressions of a moral code."
I wish I had written this because it says everything that I feel about human relationships. Sometimes, nothing is enough for some people and the smallest thing is a mountain for others.
Thanks to Sara Fishburn, which I did not ask permission but hope that she is not offended by my placement of her words on my blog.

I found this piece and wanted to share it with you:
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' hearts. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you've never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.

This was a comfort to me today,when I am feeling sad. But tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it. I will awake refreshed and see things thru new eyes.


Janet Ghio said...

Betty-what a wonderful thing to stop and think about the words "not too busy for you"..I am so guilty of being too busy when someone calls and I am in the middle of doing's good to be reminded. Those few words can make someone feel so special and respected and loved.

Elaine A said...

Betty -

Thank you for posting this. Your post today is one that made me step back and think. Thank you for the chance to do that. Sometimes we go through life in such a hurry, we forget that we are not the only ones here. So the next time the phone rings and I'm in the middle of something, I'll stop and pick it up.

Elaine Allen

bloubell said...

Thankyou for your comments. I appreciate Your kindness and your friendship. Hugs

Prairie Patch said...

I really needed to read those words right now, Betty. Sometimes people are just too disappointing, but I try to be grateful for all the good I see.

Pat said...

Would I be out of line to ask if I might repost on Facebook? It needs to be "out there" for people to read and think on. Thank you!
PS: Love your blog!

bloubell said...

I don't see a problem with that, if you are talking about the whole piece.